Archive | September 2011

Dating Site Tip #3

Gentlemen, learn how to spell, please. For someone like me, if you don’t know the difference between “your” and “you’re,” I’m less likely to be interested because it shows either a lack of education or that you’re a lazy writer. I amwriter and editor, after all.


UPDATE: a woman who has an education will very rarely date a man who doesn’t, and vice versa.  People have to connect on an intellectual level too, and if you can’t keep up with me on that level, I’m likely to leave you in the dust. I’m not being an uppity bitch, it’s just the way it works for me and intellectual conversation is a turn-on. Now, I know you guys understand that.


Online Dating – Week 2

So…I’m kidding.

Well, not much happening in week two other than I’ve had no contact with Bachelors #1 and #2, but have had a few phone conversations with Bachelor #3 (aka Nocturnal One) after having drinks and wonderful conversation with him last Friday (the 16th). I met him at 9pm at Barnes & Noble (my favorite store!) and we were so involved in conversation at Cadillac Ranch that it was almost 1am before we realized. I said last week that he has a sense of humor and it’s a very dry one at that, which works for me. I also think I’m his good luck charm because ever since we started talking, he’s been getting a ton of jobs lined up (he’s a photographer and director). He is a bit shorter than me and I’m trying real hard to overlook that. Hell, I’m just enjoying talking to him when he calls to check in once in a while around midnight before he makes his kids lunch for school.

There was a Bachelor #4, but I haven’t emailed with him in about 11 days, which is fine with me because he was too young. I’m so done with the younger men. I need someone closer to my age now.

What I want to know, however, is why are these guys winking at me on the site and marking me as their favorite, and yet, they haven’t emailed me to talk to me? Confusing. I think I may need to become more aggressive, as Patti from Millionaire Matchmaker would say, if I want some sort of contact with some of these men. As some of you know, I’m so far from aggressive in that area of my life.

Guess it’s time for another big change. =)

Online Dating – Week 1


I know, I shouldn’t start my post like that, with the word “so.” It’s bad form, kind of like starting a sentence with “anyway” or any number of other words I don’t feel like typing.

So…I had over 250 hits on my dating profile the first week. I’m not sure if that’s good or bad. I really don’t care about the number. I just thought it was amusing. What’s even more amusing is the number of scammers on the site. I even had one start talking to me and “he” was surprised when in my reply to “him” I didn’t tell more about myself. Why? Let me explain…

Do you know the first sign that tips me that they are scammers? That sentence doesn’t look right, does it? Never mind, I’ve been awake all night. Back to the scammers and the signs to spot them. Their English, or the lack thereof. Their broken fucking English. I laugh. Out loud, most times. It’s almost as bad as the idiots who try to comment on my posts here. Some of those are downright hysterical. Not you guys, but the ones with the 30-character links attached to their comments.

Um, hello, scammers? I’ve studied the English language. To the point that I know how it started and how it’s changed over the centuries. If the Normans hadn’t won the Battle of Hastings in 1066, we’d all be speaking some form of Germanic language. Seriously. I don’t know about you, but I just can’t get that one down. Arabic? No problem. Yeah, I know, that sounds crazy. Half of you are thinking, “WTF? She thinks Arabic is easier than German?” That’s right, I do.

Art credit: Lori Lasswell

What was I talking about? Oh, that’s right, online dating. It’s been a week. I had a date last weekend. It went well. Nice guy. We’ll call him Bachelor #1. Taller than me. Y’all know how the Amazon thinks and that she generally likes the taller ones. Bachelor #1 fell asleep on the phone with me at 9:30 one night. This was pretty much when I realized there was no way in hell he was going to keep up with me and my schedule. You know me, nocturnal and always working. Yeah, we have some things in common, but we have completely opposite schedules. When you’re trying to work on two businesses and take care of an elder, that takes up a lot of your time. *points to self* Um, that’d be me doing all that. Still, as nice a guy as he is, I’m not certain he’s for me. Or rather, I’m not certain I’m for him. He’s an outdoorsy person; I’m tethered to my laptop most of the time. I can see it being an issue in the future because we all know how difficult it is to get Jinxie away from her laptop.

I have a feeling my schedule is going to be a huge issue throughout this dating thing, though. I’m going to TRY to adjust it a little. Hey, I woke up at noon on Friday! That’s a start. But still, I’m a nocturnal gal. Always have been, always will be.

Bachelor #2 is actually the first guy I started talking to on the site. I also call him Nova. Yes, there’s a reason, but I can’t really say why because I don’t want these guys identifiable on here. That’d be rude of me because unless they’ve found my blog via my ZSC bio or my Facebook, they don’t know I’m blogging about them.

I should probably tell them.

Um, hey guys? I’m blogging about you…sort of.

Nova, or bachelor #2, likes the same music as me, fast cars, and has numerous other match possibilities. He’s also real nice, has a good sense of humor, and was easy to talk to once we were on the phone. We haven’t been on a date yet. If he finds this, we probably won’t be going on a date. But I believe we discussed going to see Sean Patrick Flanery‘s new movie InSight because it’s only showing in ONE part of town, which is nowhere near me, by the way.

One of the criteria I’m looking at with these guys, which I know will likely sound insane or stupid to you (or not), is how they’ll get along with some of my friends. Think about it. If I even remotely think he won’t get along with them, or they won’t get along with him, I’d never see my friends if I date the guy, so what’s the fucking point? I’ve known my friends somewhere in the 15 to 25 year range. So yeah, my friends are important and their opinions matter. They’re also very open and supportive, so it’s not like they’d instantly treat someone like shit if they didn’t like him. They’ll give the guy a chance.

Then there’s my family. My cousin has already “checked out” one of the bachelors. I won’t go into her reaction, but needless to say, my big fat Italian family looks out for me.

Let’s move on to Bachelor #3, shall we? His “about me” bio on his profile cracked me the hell up. It shows his personality and sense of humor, which is wicked funny, and which I told him recently. We started emailing each other. More hilarity, especially when he sent a message around 1am that read, “Nocturnal One to Nocturnal Two…” and gave me his number. I laughed out loud and had to cover my mouth because, you know, it’s one in the goddamn morning and Jinxie has a loud cackle. You’re damn straight I called him. We spoke for about 30 minutes and this is what I have to say…

Part of what caught my attention was that his profile said he wasn’t there to “complete” anyone, save them, or carry them off on a white horse. Perfect. That “you complete me” line is total bullshit (of course bc it’s created by Hollywood), I can save my damn self, and I don’t need a knight in shining armor, much like most of my characters. Works for me. He’s intelligent and creative too, which we all know is a huge plus. Why? Because Jinxie is a very creative individual who needs intellectual conversation.

Look, I’m not searching for my Prince Charming. That bastard is fictional. I know because I write about him. I’m not looking to rush into a serious long-term relationship. You have to work on that over time, and getting to know one another and becoming friends first is a good way to do that. Bachelor #3 may just end up being a really good friend for all I know. *shrugs* In the meantime, I enjoy the hell out of talking to some of these guys, and while I’m not looking for the fictional Prince Charming or my shining knight on a white horse (god damn those princess stories to hell), I am looking for something that will last me the rest of my life. Something meaningful, unconditional, and with someone who’s looking for the same damn thing.

So…let’s see what happens in the next week.

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Fresh Start

In lieu of my cooking escapades this week, I’ve decided to share with you something I’ve found recently – one of Umi’s poems. That’s right, my mother is a poet and has several of them…somewhere around here. Anyway, I hope you enjoy it.

At a time when your world’s

Full of hurt and pain

When you think it’s all over

With nothing to gain


Step back, take a look

And I can but guess

You’re a person I feel

Who’s truly been blessed


The pain, it will go

All fond memories will stay

Your faith will grow stronger

Just live day to day


So keep your head high

Keep love in your heart

With each brand new day

Just make a fresh start



7 April 1988

Dating Site Tip #1

Guys, when you give your personal contact info (such as an email addy or your yahoo IM) in the VERY FIRST email because you don’t want to deal with the dating site, that’s an immediate disqualification from the dating pool. Seriously. Now go take your time out by the locker room. *blows whistle*

Track Changes 101

Today, I’m going to teach you all about Track Changes in MS Word. If you don’t know what that is, that’s okay. I’ve encountered many writers over the last few years who haven’t a clue. I’ve taught them via phone and email; I can teach you through a blog post. Actually, it’ll be easier this way because I can “show” you too. 🙂

I work in MS Word 2007. You may have an older version, or a newer version—or you may need to work in RTF (Rich Text Format), which still requires some sort of word processor, but I can still help you either way. Before we begin, let’s talk about what format to save your file as and how to do that. The most common type of file to save your MS (manuscript) as should be RTF. The reason for this is because you never really know who has a PC and who uses a Mac. A Word doc (.doc) can be created on a PC and transferred to and opened on a Mac, but it won’t work the other way around, Mac to PC. It’s just picky that way, at least with the older versions. If you’re on a PC and you don’t want to save in RTF, then at the very least save your file as a Word 2003 doc. A lot of people don’t have the newer versions and 2003 will not open a .docx file, which is 2007, so I think it’s pretty safe to say 2003 also won’t open the 2010 version as well. If you’re using a Mac, I’d strongly suggest saving your file as an RTF. It still looks like Word. It just means anyone can open it, regardless of their version of software or type of computer.

On to Track Changes

I’ll attempt some screen shots for you, but I’ve adjusted my Word to the point that certain things just don’t show up anymore, so now I have to search for them in order to show you. I have to “make” them happen. It’s kind of like magic. 🙂

To use Track Changes to apply edits for someone else, such as a critique partner, you’ll need to click on the ‘Review’ tab at the top of your page and then turn on Track Changes by clicking on it (it looks like a button; check the photo at the top of this post). If you’re a keyboard command type of person, press CTRL + Shift + E. In Word 2003, I believe you can find this under the ‘Tools’ tab. Once you turn Track Changes on, you’ll notice it’s highlighted and when you begin typing, it looks like this. Of course, it’ll be red or some other color. WordPress wouldn’t let me change it and I’m not a codemonkey, but there’s a screen shot coming up.

In this first shot, I’ve changed the indent because the paragraph wasn’t indented. You’ll notice to the right there’s now a comment indicating what I did. Only when you make formatting changes or add a new comment will this show up.

Whenever you make any changes within the document, they will look like above—adding or deleting punctuation, deleting or adding words, etc. The changes will show up in the document, and the color will change with each editor, where the author will see them and can apply the changes as they see fit. We’ll get into that momentarily. Yes, you get to see how many documents I had open while creating this post for you. And very likely, those changes you see in that manuscript (MS), I forgot to add them to my MS because I made those changes here. Such is my life, but at least I have a photo to view in order to see what I’d done.

Continue to make your changes throughout the document. You can add comments to the right by clicking on ‘New Comment’ in the top menu. These are primarily for asking the author/writer questions, or pointing things out in more detail rather than just rewriting the author’s sentences.

Accept/Reject Changes

Now we’re going to go over accepting/rejecting changes. To approve/reject edits made by someone else, you’ll also need to make sure Track Changes is turned on. I’m not certain the comments will show up if it’s not, and I’ve heard they don’t, especially when the document is RTF (Rich Text Format).

When I place the cursor before the following paragraph and then hit ‘next’ in the menu, Track Changes highlights the change I made. This is a format change, so it’s highlighting two paragraphs at once. Once I click ‘Accept’, Track Changes moves on to the next edit, which can be seen in the next photo.

As I keep clicking ‘Accept’ or ‘Reject’, Track Changes will make the edit change or not, and move on to the next edit.

The tricky part is if there are actual comments. As an editor, I advise authors/writers to read the comment(s), apply changes within the document if necessary, and then ‘Reject’ the comment itself during the Accept/Reject process. Otherwise, the comment will remain visible.

Once finished with all edits, this little window will pop up.

Congratulations! You’ve just gone through your first session of Track Changes. Liberating, isn’t it? 🙂 Whether or not you think so, trust me, your editor will be pleased. Especially if you pay attention to Formatting, which will be my next post.

Yes, it’s just that simple. Ask your questions in the comments area and I’ll do my best to answer.

NOTE: One last thing. PLEASE always rename the file, either with your initials attached to the end of the original title, or your name with the word “edits” at the end of the file name. I personally don’t want the edited copy to override my original document.

Thanks for stopping by!

Jinxie G